Long-Term vs. Short-Term Orientation

 In this week’s lesson, we explored the Hofstede cultural dimension of Long-Term vs. Short-Term Orientation, especially in the context of romantic relationships in Japan. Japan is known for its strong Long-Term Orientation, and this is evident in how relationships are approached, which are typically slow, serious, and often with the long-term goal of marriage. The concept of “kokuhaku” (confession of love) formalises the start of a relationship and signals a committed path forward, which is very different from what I’m used to. 

In my own dating experience, this style feels quite distant. I come from a culture where dating is more casual, spontaneous, and emotionally open from the start. For me, dating should be about enjoying the moment, discovering someone’s personality in a relaxed way, and letting things grow naturally, without too much structure or pressure. That’s why I find the Japanese approach quite difficult to relate to. 

While I respect the values behind the Japanese method, like patience, respect, and long-term thinking, I don’t see myself adapting to it. I believe people should stay true to their way of connecting with others. For me, love should be free-flowing, not planned out like a contract. So, although I enjoy learning about cultural differences, I’d rather not change who I am when it comes to romance.

Comments

  1. JuliaJune 30, 2025 at 11:14 PM

    I totally agree that u shouldn't change when it comes to romance, that is something no one should do of course! Dating is also more fun when it's spontaneous, even when it's in a night club!!

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  2. ChielJune 30, 2025 at 11:14 PM

    Things should grow naturally! Maybe they can grow naturally between you and a Dutch person, as you seem to love the country and people.

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  3. ElsaJune 30, 2025 at 11:16 PM

    Hey Boris, thank you for your perspective on love and Hofstede's concept. I wish you good luck with dating here in Japan! Although June is already over I still support you #pride

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  4. AliJune 30, 2025 at 11:17 PM

    I also think how Japan handle relationship is very serious, and I also agree that relationship have to be about enjoying the present moment and not overthinking about the future. But of course im lying if i say future is not important, future opinion about does the other person wanted to have kids, or open relationship have to also be a decision factor for starting the relationship in the first place.

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